We all need a kick in the seat of the pants, at some point in life or another.
It could come from a teacher, a friend, or our boss — or a loving boot straight from our mother.
It might not feel good, and we might feel some shame; all those things should quickly pass.
But there’s one thing for sure that we’ll look back and say: that we deserved that kick in the ass.
Nothing brings up tears like packing the car and saying goodbye to our friends from the summer.
Travelling far away back home, away from the sun and sand and mud and grass and adventure. Sad to close the chapter on the summer and the friends we made, even if we know we’ll be back next year.
It’s never the same when that year has passed. We’re never the same after a year of school and growing and new experiences. And neither are they.
Waving goodbye to summer friends always brings tears because we’re waving goodbye to part of ourselves too, a moment in time when we were and could be something else.
Often, it isn’t until many years later that we realize the last time we saw them was when we waved them goodbye out of the car window that day.
We never know who will arrive at the end of the journey. But we know they won’t be the same as when they left.
So wave hard and wave long; until they’re completely out of sight.
Some words that transformed my life came from Jim Rohn:
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
If you’ve spent time with other humans, you’ve probably noticed that they tend to ‘rub off.’
Maybe it’s a facial expression or how they speak. We think it’s funny or cool, so we try it out later for ourselves. It gets a good response and it sticks.
This is why groups of close friends usually share similar opinions and mannerisms. It’s one of the things that makes a tribe a tribe.
But this ‘Law of Averages’ goes deeper.
If you average out the salary of those same five people, you’ll find that it’s almost exactly your salary. It’s terrifyingly close.
We like to think we’re unique, individual, autonomous creatures, but we’re enslaved to our environment and chained to the people around us.
Surround yourself with people you want to be like. Seek out people who push you to be better and listen to people who challenge your mindsets.
And be very careful who you cuddle.