The closer we are, the more obvious it is.
That might mean close like family close, or that could mean physically close like locked in a prison cell close.
Either way, the closer we are, the harder it is to ignore our impact on the people we live with.
When we’re all up here under the big sky, it’s easy to forget those invisible ties. The ripple we create is quickly absorbed in the ocean of humanity around us.
But under one roof, when that ocean becomes a puddle, the ripple we create is much more noticeable.
Big brains must give off more electromagnetic energy or something.
Occasionally, we’ll meet a person whose brain is so chock full that it leaks out of their ears into everyone around them.
It might be new information. Sometimes it’s just a different way of looking at things. And just listening to them talk is a learning experience.
That’s why James Altucher says we should try to be the stupidest person in the room.
The best way to fill our brains is to fill our lives with wonderful, colourful, big leaky brains of all types.
And let our brains soak up all that juicy knowledge.
Do you know those people that you see pretty frequently but always seem to avoid actually making contact with you?
It’s never someone we really know, but maybe we see them at the store or in the street or the park pretty often.
They have a sneaky look, never meet your eye when you turn to look, and always seem to be doing something else.
It’s because they fancy the pants off you.
They can’t even look at you without getting a tingly crotch.
Every time they see you coming, their stomach leaps into their throat and starts making weird noises, and they have to look away because they can’t breathe
I thought you should know, in case you worried it was something else.
Most goals fail for the same reason.
It’s easier to give up on yourself than it is on other people.
That’s why we have accountability buddies and life partners and coaches and personal trainers.
The other way to succeed is to make your goals bigger than you. That could mean doing it for the environment, or the animals or the unjustly imprisoned, the maltreated, or the lost and forgotten.
And it could mean doing it for the people that you love: your family and your community.
Whatever it is, it’s a damn sight harder to give up on something when other people are relying on you to turn up.
That’s why you reading this is so important. Thank you!
Make a goal that’s bigger than you, and it will bring you everything you ever wanted.
You might think you’re powerless but that’s the easy excuse.
Nobody is powerless.
Even just setting an example by the way you live could have a bigger impact than you realize.
It’s so easy to point at other people and complain, “They should be doing such and such a thing.”
Or whine, “Why aren’t they doing this other thing?”
But are you doing it?
What have you done to make the world a better place? Maybe those people think the same about you.
Before pointing fingers, throwing stones, or smearing shit, start by asking, “What am I doing to make the world better?”
Every time I ask myself this question, the answer is, “Not enough.”
And every time I ask myself, “Am I setting the right example in the way I live?”
I find that I could be doing that a lot better too.
People who are right a lot all do the same thing.
First, people who are right a lot listen a lot. They often read but they all know how to really listen.
They also change their mind a lot.
Most people spend a lot of time trying to back-up their beliefs.
But people who are right a lot change their minds a lot because they’re always looking to prove themselves wrong.
In other words: people who are right a lot work very hard not to be.
Some words that transformed my life came from Jim Rohn:
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
If you’ve spent time with other humans, you’ve probably noticed that they tend to ‘rub off.’
Maybe it’s a facial expression or how they speak. We think it’s funny or cool, so we try it out later for ourselves. It gets a good response and it sticks.
This is why groups of close friends usually share similar opinions and mannerisms. It’s one of the things that makes a tribe a tribe.
But this ‘Law of Averages’ goes deeper.
If you average out the salary of those same five people, you’ll find that it’s almost exactly your salary. It’s terrifyingly close.
We like to think we’re unique, individual, autonomous creatures, but we’re enslaved to our environment and chained to the people around us.
Surround yourself with people you want to be like. Seek out people who push you to be better and listen to people who challenge your mindsets.
And be very careful who you cuddle.